Today has to be one of the weirdest days of my life thus far. At 2:30 pm we gathered at this location (pictured) for the raising of the flag and then proceeded through the town, crossing streets, walking as a group in our robes to a lecture theatre where we were introduced to some people and watched a video (from the University of Dundee) on fire safety. After this, we went to the Old Court to have a group photograph taken. People snapped photos of us as we walked by. I met quite a lot of people from my college today, they all seemed very nice. At one point a group of Chinese tourists were taking pictures of us, and the Chinese Dutch guy who was walking next to me (and who I was speaking to) told me what they were saying….he said that the guide was explaining that we’re new students.
After the picture, we went to the Dean of the Chapel’s flat where we were served tea and biscuits. I drank orange juice though. We then proceeded to one of the several libraries and then back to the lecture theatre to sign our names in on nice sheets of paper and in a big book. This event marked our official induction as members of the college. Following this ceremony, we walked to the Master’s place for drinks. I generally hate the taste of alcohol, but I had my first drink here. After this drink, we made our way over to the hall (the supposedly Hogwarts looking place with the long tables and paintings of influential people on the ornately decorated walls). The tables were beautifully set for our 5 course meal. Many different spoons, knives, forks, plates and cups were used for various purposes. I think that I handled it well considering my lack of experience with such things. By this point I had met American, Chinese, Dutch, South Korean, Canadian, Irish and Singaporean students and would later meet a Kenyan. At the table, sitting next to me were German, Greecian, Canadian, French and English people. The talk was pretty interesting. I had just about settled in to the ‘socialising’ when this loud gong sound rang out and we all had to stand up for the passing around of the ‘love-cup’ (the rare horn of an extinct animal– that is over 1000 years old I think–).
The Dean said some words in Latin and then began passing the cup (filled again with alcohol). The cup was passed from person to person. Each person had to bow toward the person that they received the cup from, as well as toward the person they passed the cup to. I bowed at least four times I think. In between bowing, we had to sip from the large horn thing. It was some kind of alcohol mixed with ice, and apparently a bit of alcohol from the previous year is always mixed in. I have a picture of myself sipping this in the hall, but we apparently weren’t supposed to take pictures (although many people were doing so), and so I’ll reserve posting that image. We drank wine with our meal. Port and then coffee were later served as well as various fancy cheeses. My head felt a bit woozy…
After everyone drank, we had to stand and respond to a prayer in Latin. After the dinner, I was just about ready to head home, but we had yet another round of drinks to be served to us in another room. I had white wine this time and had interesting conversations with a Lithuanian girl as well as some Indian and British people.
At around 11:30pm, after about 9 hours, the matriculation events ended. Some people definitely seemed drunk, some were singing on the streets. The majority continued on to a club for further festivities, but 5 of us went back home.
Month: November 2013
Le Gown
I stay at an old Victorian house
Hung on the walls are framed paintings and drawings of various men who I assume to have been important within the college. Right outside my room there is a shelf with old books, and on the window sills sit old pieces of china.
Someone comes to clean inside our rooms once every week. The idea of that just seems quite odd…I thought that that only happened at hotels, inns and guest houses.
As far as I’ve seen, six people live in my house, and a seventh person has a room here. There are four guys and 2 girls. The 4 guys and the other girl all sounded English (although the girl’s accent isn’t so much), so I assume that they are. They’re all white, except one guy who seems mixed with Asian. I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t feel slightly out-of-place and odd here being black, Caribbean and trying not to speak dialect.
There is a certain ‘poshness’ about the place, the city even, that’s hard to ignore, but sometimes difficult to put your finger on. I guess that it’s the expense of things, the antiquity, maybe the way people behave generally, maybe the events.Tomorrow please God we have Matriculation in gowns and formal wear, as well as a dinner in a very fancy hall. Every night thus far there have been these social events at the house as a sort of orientation. Tonight it’s ‘Curry and Condom’ night…I really have no idea what that is about…but people sound happy though. I rarely took part in ‘fun, crowded, social stuff’ at UWI, and I’ll likely not take part often here either. Being quite introverted, I’d have to work up quite a bit of energy to go through those…with large groups, knives and forks, wine, cheese, beers, expense, standard-English-speak and all… things that I am not comfortable with.
There is a bar downstairs, a kitchen where they cook meals for us (we can charge those to our University ID if we want), a dining room, piano, TV and game rooms. Students from surrounding houses/accommodation in the estate all come here to ‘lime’ (I’m not sure what they call ‘liming’ here)….but I may still hear very little or nothing from my room. There is a swimming pool and gym somewhere in the area of the estate…I haven’t found them as yet. There is also a large field for sports as well as other sporting facilities.
The people in the house seem nice, polite, cool, they say ‘hi’- not as friendly, noisy or ‘concerned about your participation’ as Caribbean people, but nice. I like them that way…cuz I’m a bit like that too. Those who don’t live in the house, but who come here to chill may just pass you straight and completely ignore you if you say “good afternoon”… but some might say ‘Hi’, some will force a smile.. and I’m completely confused as to how I should interact with them. Maybe if I attended the social events I won’t have that problem…so I guess that’s on me.
The site manager is very friendly and helpful. I locked myself out of the house (by the gardens) once and felt very embarrassed..he was chill about it, he didn’t make me feel stupid. I sometimes wonder if he sits with a list and studies names because he refers to all by name and seems to be very aware of everyone. He has been calling me ‘Kalifa’ since I arrived, and I think that he pronounces my name better than many Trinis do.
I’m still adjusting…and I’m still learning.
The English people say ‘cheers’ instead of ‘thank you’. I don’t think that that will ever catch on with me- it just sounds weird to me
Whilst walking down the street today
Whilst walking down the street today, two little children started waving and smiling in my direction from behind a car glass. I looked around to see who or what they were waving at. I didn’t think that it was me because, generally, people in this city don’t say ‘Hi, Hello, Good Morning, Afternoon, Evening, or acknowledge you’ unless they have to interact with you regularly or if you must speak to them. After looking around though, and seeing no-one else, I turned back and looked at the little children in the car and flashed them a big smile. They looked even happier and one of them seemed to say to an adult in the car “She smiled back!”.
After passing the car I thought to myself…maybe they were waving and smiling at each passer-by. Having not yet fully learnt/accepted certain social customs, they may not have felt it odd to acknowledge the presence of another they didn’t personally know. However, I later thought –In a few years, when they’re older, things might change… when I enter the coach and say “Good morning”, they won’t respond; if they happen to be my neighbour and I pass them on my way out, they’d just walk straight by.
They’ll have forgotten the joy of receiving a smile and the wish of a good day from a stranger because they’ll rarely smile ‘Hi’ or say Good-day.
(BTW I didn’t take this picture today, it’s just for illustrative purposes)
the giant hummingbird in the sky!
I’ve watched her for so long (years) from maxi windows on the Southern Main Road and Saturday last I finally got to fly with the giant hummingbird in the sky! She flew me through timezones toward a dawn at 2:30am, up over the clouds…oceans of tightly bunched white cotton balls and sky blue islands of atmosphere. Gracefully she landed in the UK and we said goodbye. It’s been quite a long journey getting here, filled with many disappointments along the way; but thanks to God, family, friends, wonderful lecturers, mentors and teachers, well wishers, various others and a bit of personal dedication I’m finally getting to do the MPhil in Social and Developmental Psychology at the University of Cambridge.




