Naballah, a 25 year old Muslim stylist, fashion and travel blogger, designer and UWI graduate, is a multitalented young woman. She grew up in Chaguanas, Trinidad and is currently working on launching her own Hijab collection. Her accomplishments have earned her a committed following online as well as feature interviews on the BBC (links below). Commenting on how she was able to achieve all that she has, she said, “I mastered my art and was able to take it forward and create my own platform in the form of my blog and YouTube channel and now my own Hijab line; cultivating a niche for others to learn and simultaneously be inspired. This in turn has drawn the attention of many individuals and organizations, many of whom have invested time and money into my work which consequently brings many benefits for me including financial gain, visibility and publicity.”
However, as many others have experienced before, her journey was not always easy, “On many occasions I’ve been turned away from opportunities because of my faith and wearing my Hijab. Hijab is an extension of my spirit and I felt like every time I was turned away from joining a team whether in a corporate setting or, say, sports, it made me feel as though I couldn’t get anything done wearing my Hijab. Establishing a Muslim identity was difficult especially when you feel obliged to neglect your spiritual dimension in the quest for materialism and sensual pleasures. This leads to struggle with issues like low self-esteem, particularly given the negative media attention surrounding my identity and faith community. When you suffer from low self esteem you usually try to mask it with an outward pretense of extroversion.” Despite the challenges she has faced as a Hijabi woman, she was able to rise above and move ahead by acknowledging her self worth and believing in herself.
In the future, Nabs hopes to have her own business; a branded line of Hijabs and scarves called ‘Chijabs’. She also hopes to continue her travelling, blogging and launch her own website. Asked what advice she’d give to others, she says, “My advice to anyone facing the same discouragement I faced would be to know that discouragement is not the absence of adequacy but the absence of courage. Many times we are discouraged because we feel as though we are incapable of doing something when the reality is that we can but we lack the courage to do it.
Never say that you can’t do something with your Hijab on or that something seems impossible, or that something can’t be done, or that Hijab limits what you can achieve. No matter how discouraging or harrowing it may be; human beings are limited only by what we allow ourselves to be limited by: our own minds. We are each the masters of our own reality; when we become self-aware to this: absolutely anything in the world is possible. Master yourself, and become king of the world around you. Let no odds, doubt, fear, or ANY mental virus prevent you from accomplishing your dreams. Never be a victim of life; be its conqueror.”
BBC Interview (colourful hijabs): http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p02rzn1f
BBC Interview 2: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p02rmj93
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Ignore the noise
René, a talented 29 year old, stared a successful company based in Trinidad’s creative industry, called Lab206 Studio . Growing up as an only child, he moved around a lot; living in 6 places. He came from a middle-class background, and though he had a comfortable childhood, he was very aware of his family’s economic status since many of his peers at school were better off than he was. Speaking of his younger days, he said he always felt like an outsider, “The only person I related too in my immediate family was my dad, we are very close and he has been the most supportive in my life to this day, I was his shadow for a long time and I think he’s one of the reasons I keep doing what I do. He had his own business while I was growing up and it ended financially bad, to the point where we almost had to start over. Seeing him go through that made me understand him on a different level, and it probably coloured my view on people and things up to this day. “
However, seeing his father’s struggles and victories in business also has helped prepare him for dealing with the stresses of running a successful company of his own. “Defeated is a strong word but if I was to be honest, discouragement and anxiety comes often, mostly from myself. This company on some days is the most draining thing I have ever had to deal with and my life has become so intertwined to it that it’s hard to separate the two. The mental toll can be a lot but at the same time it helps me focus on what it is I’m doing, not for myself, but knowing that what I’m doing is for my 8, and growing, staff members and their betterment. Recently we won a grant to produce a product for an idea we’ve been sitting on for two years and on some level there is a sense of validation that comes with it, but small victories are won every day that change my perspective when it comes to me and my business, from winning another account to seeing a client happy with our work, to planning a process and seeing my company grow and the people in it fulfilling some accomplishment they had for themselves. In the future I see my company, Lab 206, as a big creative campus on the level of Dreamworks/ Pixar/ Google, creating apps, games, Caribbean content, just being able to give a lot of kids the kind of opportunities I find myself fighting for nowadays… and me just walking amongst them and hearing their stories and ideas and trying to figure out ways to make it come to life. Then theres the other side of that where I kinda want a simpler life, owning a small family restaurant, outdoorsy, lots of vines growing all over the place, like a garden restaurant with 3 kids.”
Advice he’d give to others on moving forward to making their dreams come true, “Have a big picture approach to things: that despite the hiccup in the road here, the destination where you are heading is much brighter so stay focused on that. Ignore the noise; the noise being anything that deflects from your current path. Have a goal in mind and work arduously towards achieving that, draw on the support from the people around you. Follow your passion, which doesn’t always mean that your passion has to be your job, but have a passion in your life and hold onto that.”
The universe is not your enemy
Anastasia, 26, is an adventurous, fun and kind person. She has wonderful dreams for herself and for others, and sees herself making a great difference in the world. She’s lived and taught in Japan, completed her MA in the UK, and there’s no doubt that she already has, and someday will, touch even more lives. She told me, “It’s only recently that I defined what I want to do. I would sincerely like to pursue a career in Education for Sustainable Development. Working for the United Nations is my end goal. For me, their work is extremely inspiring and I strongly empathise with their charter. I believe that teaching is the noblest of professions, but also the most important. It’s nurturing the seeds that will grow into the Earth’s future. I aspire to create opportunities for all in this regard, especially children, to help them have access to quality education. I have two role models that have greatly influenced how I live, and their words always stick with me throughout: “Hasta la victoria siempre” [Always towards victory], Che Guevara; and “Be the change you want to see in the world”, Mahatma Gandhi. My vision, as cliché as it sounds, is to make the world a better place, no matter how small. I also have other dreams, like travelling around the world and petitioning people to close down all zoos worldwide; spending some time with indigenous tribes, experiencing their way of life… then of course there is that personal side where I would like to be happily married to the love of my life and experiencing all these things with him too.” As it happens though, despite all her great dreams and plans for herself, moving forward has been a challenge. “I’m actually going through a difficult time right now. I’ve had an ongoing bout of depression and insomnia, say about a year and a half now. I’ve recently completed my MA, and I had blind hope that pursuing postgraduate studies would help me get a good job, but to date I’ve been rejected from more than one hundred posts I applied for and I went from a happy-go-lucky person to a pessimist quite quickly. No matter how hard I try, for some reason my dreams seem to be slipping out of my hands. Dramatic, I know- but that’s what it feels like”. What’s really beautiful about her story though is her perseverance even when she feels bogged down. She continued, “For me, giving up isn’t an option. It’s engraved into my very being and I have wonderful friends who encourage me and help me through. Even though I don’t feel 100% roughly 90% of the time recently, I do not intend on giving up. If anything, it makes me really reflect on the kind of person I am and where I want to be, and it drives me to push myself harder – as long as I’m able to find a little ounce of motivation, I’ll do my best towards a dream. I would say that… no matter how difficult a time you may be going through, confiding in someone is important. Sometimes you may not want to bother others with thoughts that might seem trivial, but deeply affect you. But sometimes it’s dangerous to be alone with those thoughts. Secondly, try your hardest to believe, and to not give up. The universe is not your enemy. “ 🙂
Update of illustration of the Psychometrics Centre
Last February I started this. I wanted to draw a picture of the members of my Research Group at Cambridge–The Psychometrics Centre. Time went by, I’m not a part of the group anymore, and I increasingly felt like it would be a super outdated, irrelevant piece…I still wanted to finish it though… and I still hope to (hopefully before Feb 2016 >_<)
Leaning back; Falling in ….
I don’t share very often about feelings or experiences of love and romance in my life, but maybe, February 10th of each year will eventually become my typical day for exposition along such lines. It’s quite like me to want to publicly express myself through writing and art, yet still keep a certain cloak over what’s really there—revealing the form of what I feel and experience, without lifting the veil to let the features show….because it’s difficult to lay open the barest of my thoughts, feelings and emotions; I feel exposed, vulnerable, hardly a picture of perfection– and on occasion, repulsive. With time though, it becomes easier to reveal ‘the hidden’…but also, it often becomes more unnecessary to do so—a win-win situation if ever there was one. I’ve spent a long time worried that I’m destined to be alone, wondering whether ‘someday’ will again come when I feel loved in my ‘Kalifaness’. I spent years pondering on the ‘what ifs?’ What if I’m incapable of loving? What if I’m incapable of being loved? What if I never reach the point of emotional maturity enough to enjoy the beauty, and survive the challenges, of a relationship? These have been sobering thoughts, sometimes only barely missing the mark in becoming ‘depressing’ and stagnating, but…
‘Someday’ came. 🙂
….and now I smile every day in the continuing presence of the age which began on that day.
It’s wonderful, freeing and beautiful to have been caught and to be held; to have found (/been discovered by) someone with the strength and patience to catch me now that I’ve allowed myself to fall. Someone finds my me-ness attractive—as awkward, emotional, and sometimes contentious as it is…’pew boop boop boop’ >_< It’s wonderful knowing that. Though I know that we’re still in the ‘baby stage’ of our relationship, and my feelings of foofy-ditzy- joy should be expected to temper out, I feel at ease knowing that the foundation and instigation of it all was a great friendship and sincere, mutual care, concern and liking. Having him around has instilled me with a greater sense of peace and contentment that feels almost alien in its rarity—but the alienesque rarity of that feeling is exactly what allows it to feel and be so natural, so close, so real, so special. It’s comforting to be able to return/concurrently exchange the gifts of ‘supporting’, ‘appreciating’, ‘knowing’, ‘caring’, ‘laughing’; ‘loving’….and I hope to continue exchanging those gifts with him for a long time to come.
“We know the signs are too dark to see,
Close your eyes and lean in to me” –Mononoke
